The coincidences in life are always on time

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The coincidences in life are always on time
The coincidences in life are always on time
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He: "I am most annoyed by balance sheets, reports and analyses. Why? Because I don't want to give a clear account of what I'm doing! I don't even want to admit where I made a mistake in my judgment! I know that in the end I always turn out to be right!”

Her: “I don't want to know what is best for me at all! I want what I want! Period! I want to see him squirm! Clear?! And I don't care how childish and immature it is!”

I had no idea that the two clients I was consulting were the two participants in the same human story.

As I listened to them, the word “humility” echoed in my mind, and I chased it just as forcefully as the two in front of me.

I don't know if you are aware, but when a psychologist fails to ask a question about a topic to his client, either he himself has difficulty with that topic, or the topic is so painful for the client that the consultant feels the wall built up.

In the following hours and days, the word “humility” kept popping into my mind, and so I decided to spend time with it and understand its message for myself. That's how I remembered the story of a love that I haven't told you. The owners of this story are a smart, talented, charismatic, visionary man and woman, our contemporaries, who (when we met) carried within themselves a great longing - to realize their dream, to establish themselves and to be recognized. They did not need the approval of the world in which they lived. They needed a performance on a bigger stage and the recognition of a connoisseur audience.

When they met, they did not recognize in each other the gift that Life gave them, nor did they take into account the "magic" that easily made everything happen between them. For the man in this story, what happened to him with the woman was unnecessary, unnecessary, not what he was looking for and completely negligible.

It was precious to the woman, but she could never say the words to say that she wanted them to continue together. After a brief banter, each went their separate ways, but neither continued on it. An invisible thread pulled them. When they came to me individually, they wanted me to find the "hook" and unhook it so they could get to where they were going. When I asked them if they had any idea what this thread was making them look at, they both talked about the love they felt for each other, and both acknowledged the value of what happened between them. But somehow I had the feeling that this recognition was only in words. Both were running away from the touch of the feelings they had for the other. I felt it hurt a lot.

Time passed - we worked through the pain of the loss, the two realized the cost of the choices made and were already moving in the direction of setting new goals.

Had I found and removed the "hook"?

One day most surprisingly they met in the waiting room outside my office.

Truth as well as love has the ability to explode.

Usually, she had a habit of turning around and proudly leaving the scene with her head held high, while he authoritatively issued statements and orders. Nothing like that happened this time. The moment they saw each other, their bodies bristled ready for battle, they looked into each other's eyes for an endlessly long moment, then their tears flowed, they both walked towards each other at the same time, embraced each other and cried out in each other's embrace everything that they had not admitted to each other for another out loud, in mind, in private, in front of me, in front of a friend.

The coincidences in life are always on time.

It was the turn of the confession

It was time for both of them to say out loud what they are about each other.

And because the pain was great and the office was empty, he gave space to their words.

No one has ever loved me like you. You gave me the gift of being loved

I remember the warmth of your embrace as I fell asleep

I was rich when I hugged you

You taught me that things don't happen overnight, that they are a process, and that preparation is the magic of intention and creation

In the morning with the aroma of coffee, you filled my day with lightness and hope, with confidence of success

He patiently prepared me for the difficult battles

From you I learned that in life I will get the support I need

You showed me your vulnerability, but it didn't take away from your strength

Your attitude towards life provokes me to trust it. I believed in myself and realized that despite the difficulties, I would make it

I understood what he meant by the way he was looking at me

I realized that every word spoken between us was in its place

I discovered my wisdom and confidence

Your every thought enriched me

I don't want to fight, I want to cooperate. I don't want to destroy, I want to create

I ignored you

You're gone from my days, but I can't get you out of my mind. I'm furious, you settled in my heart like a comfortable huge armchair. And every time I decide to save something, you seem to put a barbed wire through it and point out my insincerity. From this pain, I realized what you are to me, what you gave me, what I was with you, what it is to be human. As much as I don't want to admit it, something between us is "stuck" and in order to continue my life without you, I will have to tear away from my heart. From that pain I knew humility. I saw and acknowledged what happened between us. Many times I thought of deleting your phone number - but then I understood that it would mean causing myself pain that I could not bear. I wanted to call you so many times, but in those moments I understood that if we meet, there is only one path ahead of us - our common one

I looked at you and saw the lifestyle I love and want to live. What was happening between us didn't look glamorous and beautiful like a picture, it wasn't a performance for an audience. It was just for me and you. It was the energy to make the other dream come true. We didn't use it. I still wonder if we can give life to this between us and realize our desired achievements at the same time?

Now it's time to go

I don't know their answer yet. For me, honesty and openness are more important, because they free from the hooks, give freedom and humility. Only when we acknowledge (acknowledge) the contributions of people in our lives can we be at peace with ourselves (humble) and continue on our path.

Boryanka BORISOVA, psychologist

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